Tempest in a marriage can occur because of the inability of one partner to meet the needs of the other. Husband and wife have their own needs that need to be understood. However, not a few of the couples who missed it, so open opportunities for infidelity or relationships that are not qualified.
Gading Pluit psychiatric medical specialist Maria Poluan says husbands and wives each have five needs to be met:
Needs of a husband
For men, Mary's first requirement is the fulfillment of sexual needs. That's because the libido that men have and biologically men will feel satisfied when channeled.
'Their love is channeled through more libido,' Maria said during the seminar 'Gonta Panti pair, What's the Risk?' Which was held at Gading Pluit Hospital, Kelapa Gading, North Jakarta, Saturday
The second need is togetherness in the hobby. When a hobby can be done together, it will improve the quality of the relationship. If not, then there should be tolerance between husband and wife to understand the couple's hobby. 'There are activities together,' said the RS Ivory Pluit psychiatrist.
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The third requirement is an attractive wife. Therefore, as a wife must be able to keep the appearance in front of the husband, even though already married.
The fourth requirement is the ability to take care of the household. Maria reminded that taking care of the household is not just cooking, it also takes care of the child and the house. 'The most important thing is to be able to organize the household,' said Maria.
The last requirement is a reward. Men, said Maria, need an appreciation from their partner to keep feeling valued. Because. Often rewards are forgotten so men turn away.
Wife needs
If the husband has a need, then so does the wife. The husband should not be selfish and marginalize the needs of the wife who must also be fulfilled.
According to Maria needs the first wife is affection. In women, says Mary, that love can be a compliment. 'For example, your food is good, so the affection is more towards caress and praise what the couple did,' said Maria.
Another requirement is a friend talking. The wife needs a friend to talk because maybe a little friend talking at home while taking care of the child. They need a place to pour out complaints, in this case, a faithful husband to be a good listener and adviser.
In addition, the wife needs honesty. Mary reminded that women are a good reminder, let alone been lied to. 'Women if ever lied to by the husband is very difficult to forget, so it takes time,' said Maria.
Another requirement is financial support in order to meet good housekeeping. Last is a commitment to family which means needing a faithful and family-minded partner.
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